love me not

there are numerous songs, poems, books, stories, movies, etc. about love...love is all you need they say, any problem can be solved w/love they show, they want you to think that love is the only important thing there is and that it's indestructable and it's amazing and that once u find someone to love all ur troubles go away and life is amazing forever....truth: THEY LIE!!
love isn't some instant cure...and it's not all you need for a marriage either, i knwo i know u think well what else is there? all i want in life is someone to love me...well if that's all u want shoot problem solved: parents, God, friends....but i knwo what u mean...it seems like that's the only thing in life worth working for and the only important thing in every movie plot. but love, real love, and sharing ur life with someone, it's hard work, it takes more than pure emotion it takes commitment and perserverance and not giving up when things get tough, there are things in life you're not going to agree on there are things that will happen that are unexpected and unfortunate...think about the person you want to spend ur life with..is this the person u want to be with you through everythign? through good and bad, sickness and health, is this person going to stay with you if u get fat or ugly or if u lose a limb? is this person going to be there for you if you lose a child, if you get in a car accident, if you get wrongfully accused of something? what if you hit someone with you're car? what if their parents hate you? what if someone accuses you of cheating, is that person going to believe someone else over you? if not..what are u doing with them? why would u stay with someone that u had no future with? just to be with them? that doesn't make sense, that's not fair to you or to them...that's putting all ur stock in a bond your not planning on leaving in tact....because it's convienient? is that why? now how pointless and heartless and superficial is that? i mean being with someone because they treat you well and there isn't someone else at ur doorstep isn't really a reason at all, it's a selfish notion...because u love them? well can u be with out them? marry someone u can't live with out not someone you can live with...that's not how it goes, don't settle for someone that will be ok, don't settle for someone that makes you smile if he always makes you cry....marriage isn't love...spending a lifetime together means u need more than that, it means u need to be able to look at their smug expression every day and not hate them..it means that you make them coffee in the morning and buy your wife tampons or u get gas-x for ur husband...it's not all fun and games it's about raising children and making the right choices, it's about sacrifice and work, and it may not sound like something enjoyable but work can be the greatest hting in the world if it's the right person...passion isn't love, it's passion...remember that, there is drive and perserverance and never giving up and then there's emotion and lust and giggles....don't settle...push for the greatest...if ur getting a prom date it's one thing, if ur choosing a life mate it's quite another. be fair to them, be fair to you, date only to find someone to spend ur life with and don't spend ur time with someone u couldn't live with...don't stay because of convenience or just to be with someone....stay because there's potential.....
changedfish...wisdom beyond experience