You can't have your cake and eat it too...

so i was reading through a friends facebook today and he has this blip on how he's single and never been kissed (and of course he added a plug that if a girl were to play her cards right she could be his first haha but that's besides the point i'm going to make)
and it got me thinking about purity. purity is such a fluid concept these days. well actually they don't even teach purity these days, they teach abstinence. even in a church setting they tell kids to wait until they are married to have sex but rarely give much time to telling kids not to give the rest away too quickly. and honestly sometimes kids start off so early that by the time they're married it's like, ok this isn't a huge deal, just one more thing to add to my list you know.
i've decided it's like a cake (no really, hear me out) let's just say that all girls are given a cake when they are born (in a tupperware i suppose so it never goes bad) anyhow this cake isn't for them, it's for their husband right. but they still take it with them all of their lives. and rather than the people around them telling them to keep the entire cake for their husbands they're instructed mearly that he likes cake and would like to have some when they are married. but she also hears from those around her that all boys like cake. and so she decides that as she goes about life she will give out pieces of her cake to different boys along the way. she makes sure to keep one piece for her husband of course but since she is only obligated to keep that one piece she feels no guilt passing out bigger and bigger pieces to more and more guys as she grows up. by the time she gets married her husband may still have that significant piece of cake, and i'm sure that he appreciates the fact that she did in fact save him a piece but how much better would it be if he had the whole cake?
it's a weird analogy but i think it works, i mean how would you feel if your husband gave you a flower pedal instead of a dozen roses? you'd be a bit disappointed wouldn't you? i mean sure you'd be glad that he saved you something, thought of you for the long run, but i mean if all he has is that one puny pedal you're going to wonder why he felt it was so important to give all the other flowers away before he met you.
i dunno, i know that it's better than nothing but i wish that someone (or a lot of someones) would have impressed upon me the importance of purity at a much younger age. told me in a way that would've made me understand and listen.
i've given some of my cake to the rain, more to the moon, i don't trust myself anymore, so i'm giving the rest to the shepard- he guards the sheep, why not my cake?

changedfish- just a sliver