i've decided you're generally interested in those you spend the most time with. now that may sound like a really dumb and obvious statement to make- and you're probably thinking that it's more like you spend the most time with those your interested in-but hear me out chicken/egg'ers.
i don't mean friends wise, i mean romantically. it jsut seems that convienience weighs out over standards, similarities, even morals. it's somewhat ridiculous but i find it's true in my own life. i tend to be attracted to those i'm around the most. just simply because i knwo them fairly well so then i feel like well i could see myself with them on a one on one basis, i mean obviously i get along with them and we're similar people right? but i've found that sometimes you need to realize that some people are put in your life to be your FRIEND and that six letter word is an amazing thing. friendship can be so fantastic if you don't mess it up thinking all these thoughts that you're trained to think but don't really actually think. i mean truly many of the guys that i look at and say 'sure i could date him' are my friends, guys that i trust and admire and respect and enjoy hanging otu with and that should definately be on my criteria list but at the same time i don't honestly think that me dating them would be a good idea. they're my brothers, my FRIENDS! and it's not about mutual feelings taht we don't act on becasue we dont' want to ruin the friendship like some lame teen sitcom it's just one of those things where society and my friends and influences tell me that i MUST have a "crush" that i MUST like someone as more than my friend that if a guy is my friend then he MUST be a good boyfriend candidate..and well frankly i think that's bogus. now i do think that if you are going to date he should be your best friend adn such, i mean i think that makes a good marriage. you should have outside friends but that person should be someone that is really close to you. but that friendship has to be built you dont' have to hit on your existing friends! that's just silly.
so basically what i'm saying is go for more than just convenience. realize that it's ok if you're not interested in someone all the time. set high standards and don't compromise them. and above all- enjoy your friends and don't try to complicate things!
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